We all overlook certain parts of our lives. Do you know what the billboards on your way to work say? Did you notice the trees got trimmed? Those little things are a part of what makes our lives fuller. One day you’ll look at an empty lot and wonder why you don’t remember what was there. It might make you a little sad because that was a part of your past. We get so caught up in our routines that we don’t see the things happening right around us. It’s good to set aside some time to just be present. Not worrying about the future or fretting over the past. Just in the moment.
People miss out on a lot over the course of their lives. Here’s a list of the most common things people regret missing out on:
The little things.
When your only interaction with outdoors becomes looking out of a window, you’ll wish you could feel the breeze on your arms again. If something happens and you lose your ability to taste food, you’ll wish you could experience spicy food again. Take a minute to feel what’s happening around you. The smallest moments make some of the most vivid memories. One of my most vivid small moments is when I went to Italy and got pizza and couldn’t put parmesan on it. I’m not sure why that stuck out so much, but it bothered me. Don’t you have something random like that stick out from time to time? That’s what all of life is like if you paid attention to those little things.
Other people make life interesting. Wouldn’t you say people watching is entertaining? People do some weird stuff and it’s hilarious! Now we try to ignore each other by looking at our phones. If we look busy, then no one will try to talk to us. It’s not being antisocial, you just don’t want to be bothered by someone you don’t know. That other person could have been your future boss and you’ll have missed the chance to make a good impression on him. Most of the time we complain about not having friends, but when’s the last time you talked to someone you didn’t know? That’s how you make new relationships. If you don’t put yourself out there with other people you’re missing objectively the most important part of life. They aren’t as strange, mean, or indifferent as you think. We’re just all afraid to talk to somebody.
This is one of the more subtle things people miss out on. It happens every time you go to the same place for lunch instead of trying that new restaurant, you’re missing that experience. Even if it’s bad, you wouldn’t know. And if it’s good you’re missing out on all the times you could have gone there already. Driving the same route to the store is another overlooked experience. Did you know a new store opened around the corner from you? It has that thing you’ve been looking for too! Maybe it’s just construction in the way and you could find a way around it. If you never change your route, you’ll never learn something new. Even watching a different show is an experience! Don’t just keep watching reruns of the same cancelled show! Try something, anything new!
This one is a sore point for a lot of people. Nobody wants to admit that they’ve given up on their dreams. There does come a turning point for most people. It’s like you cross over into the threshold of excepting that your life just is what it turns out to be or you decide that you’re willing to take a chance. Most people never take that chance because they come up with billions of excuses. Fail or succeed, we all have a limited amount of time to do anything. Do you really want to use it all just to realize you could have went for your goal and you probably would have made it? Your dreams can be your life. You could be physically living your dream life. It’s just the question of what you’re willing to give up.
Helping someone else.
A lot of people don’t want to hear this either. Helping people is like rounding the edge of a table. It makes it better for everyone if they bump into it. When you help someone, you end up helping someone else as a result. You have enough resources to go help another person do better than they currently are. It could be spending an hour reading to kids at the library, training people in a skill that will help them be more employable, or handing out water at a 5k. Anything you do that has a positive impact on another person’s life, no matter how big or small, will make a difference. Your volunteering might mean a single parent has enough time to take classes after work. It could mean that a homeless person becomes more employable. Take the time to get out of your own head and help pull someone else out of theirs.